Disclaimer
This guide is for informational purposes only. It is an opinion and should be used for personal entertainment purposes only. This guide is not to be considered as legal or personal advice and you are responsible for your own behavior.
Introduction
The purpose of this guide is, quite simply, to teach you how to master the art of oral sex. You may think that you know all there is to know about going down on your woman because you can manage to bring her to orgasm once in a session, but I promise you that there is much more for you to learn. There is no reason that you should not be able to make her scream and moan with pleasure over and over again as she enjoys multiple orgasms from your mouth.
What’s in it for you? Well, let’s just say that after you’ve blown her mind with your new found talent, you will be dealing with a very happy lady who will gladly return the favor both in and out of the bedroom.
Mastering oral sex is an invaluable skill and there’s no reason that you can’t do it. Enough said? Okay, let’s get to it.
Psychology plays a huge role
Oral sex is and should be about giving. In order to give as much as you can, as well as you can, you must try to understand your woman. Keep in mind that going down on her isn’t for you. You’re doing it for her. That’s not to say you shouldn’t it, you definitely should have fun and you should walk away feeling great that you’ve just made her feel great.
What happens far too often, however, is that we tend to project our own likes and desires onto the person we are trying to satisfy. For instance, if we like it fast, then we assume she likes it fast. If we like it hard, we assume she does as well.
In order to be great at working her pussy, you have to let these assumptions disappear and work on doing what feels good to her. It sounds simple, but it takes a little bit of work and practice. You definitely don’t want her feeling like she’s the only one who knows how to take care of her needs because you’re impatient, right?
The Oral Sex Method
The best way to master oral sex is to follow something I like to call the Oral Sex Method. It’s incredibly easy to understand and practice and will be your best guide throughout your journey to become a master.
Here it is: Try something that you think will bring her pleasure. Pay attention to her response. Follow rather than lead.
Let me explain a bit. As I’ve already stated, we don’t understand what the woman really wants. We can only guess and judge based on her reactions. Therefore, we must be willing to try many different things in order to find something that she truly likes.
It is best to start out with one method, such as making circles around her clitoris with your tongue, and find out if she responds positively. If she does, then simply continue until she orgasms.
If she reacts negatively, or just not positively enough, simply try a different method. For example, you can change your speed and see if her body responds more enthusiastically. This is the basis for mastering the art of oral sex.
Here’s what I just told you in a step by step formula format:
- 1) Pleasure your woman with a method of your choice
- 2) Be sensitive to her reaction to it
- 3) Continue if reaction is positive, until orgasm
- 4) Change to new pleasure method if reaction is not positive and go back to step 1)
Becoming a master at oral sex is as simple as using that method.
Pay attention to her reactions
Your woman will always be telling you what feels good and what doesn’t. The trick is knowing how to listen. She won’t tell you outright what feels good and what doesn’t. Women are far less vocal about these sorts of things than men. You will have to read her reactions and proceed accordingly.
It may take some time to figure out the signals that she sends you, but with time you will learn your woman. Although, that’s not to say that if you’re not in a relationship that you can’t learn to pick up on signals that almost every woman will send out during both oral and penetrative sex. Some reactions are universal throughout all of womankind and if you can feel what they mean for one person, then you can feel the same things from another. There are a few hints to guide you along the way.
Signals of pleasure and pain
Some signals are simply the same for the vast majority of women out there. They are subconscious reactions like pulling your hand away from a hot stove. Here are some of them:
She starts thrusting her pelvis
She starts pushing her pelvis onto you
Her toes and feet start to curl
She grabs onto something with her hands
She groans in a good way
These things typically signal pleasure, but be aware that sometimes they can also signal discomfort and an attempt to tell you to stop. These are the times when you will need to know your woman and be in tune with her or know how to read all women.
For example; imagine she slides a finger into your anus that you were wholly not expecting. You may groan or thrust your pelvis. In this case, these would obviously not be signs of your pleasure.
You must take care to be aware that she would react in equal measure if you suddenly did something to her that cause displeasure. Use common sense when it comes to these things and focus on the signals that she is really sending.
A signal of discomfort will often be very sharp and short, like a flinch, where signals of pleasure will be more constant and slow. If she is sending signals of discomfort, then you are doing something that she dislikes or causing her pain. If you keep it up for too long, you risk breaking the mood or, much worse, hurting her.
Here are some examples of signs of discomfort:
She makes no sound whatsoever. This varies from woman to woman, your woman may be the type that makes no sounds ever during sex and you have to be aware of this. However, most women will make some type of sound or moan if they really like what you’re doing. A prolonged silence can mean she’s not appreciating what you’re doing.
She seems disinterested or indifferent. This is an obvious one, but if you’re too wrapped up in what you’re doing you might miss it. If she’s giving a vibe that she’s totally not enjoying it she probably isn’t. Take notice if this is the case. She may just not be in the mood, in which case it may be best to cut your losses and spend the rest of the night watching television. If you can respect when she doesn’t want to engage in sex, then she appreciate you much more and more willing to get into it in the future.
She flinches suddenly
She flinches softly (some women think their man may get upset if she implies what he is doing is not enjoyable or painful so they try and cover up their signals, but you can still tell by subtle flinches)
Using steps 3 and 4
I’ve given you some examples of the different signals your woman will send you during oral sex. Steps 3 and 4 are incredibly simple:
First you apply step 1 (give her one chosen method of pleasure)
In step 2 you get feedback on her reactions (positive or negative signals of pleasure)
If she gives you signals of pleasure apply step 3 and continue doing whatever you’re doing until she orgasms. It is extremely important to keep doing whatever you’re doing at a constant rate and not increase or slow it. What I mean by this is that often it’s tempting to go faster and faster as a woman gets closer to orgasms and is giving you lots of positive feedback; however, this can actually stop the orgasm. If you’re getting good feedback then it means you need to keep on doing what you’re doing, not change the speed. If she gives you signals of discomfort or displeasure then apply step 4 immediately.
Step 4 is simply changing your method of pleasuring. And it effectively means going back to step 1. It’s a simple circular formula until you strike gold with a method of pleasuring that she really likes. Don’t be disheartened if you have to do this several different times. Not only is every woman unique in what she likes, she may enjoy certain things at certain times, then find them boring or uncomfortable at others.
It helps to imagine your own levels of arousal at different times. One day you may be so horny that you want to try anything your mind can come up with or that you’ve noticed in passing on some web site. Other times, when you’re not so worked up, just sharing an intimate moment with your woman in bed can be enough for you. It works the same exact way for the fairer sex. If there are things that you’ve done in the past that she really enjoyed, but she just isn’t into at the moment, give it a few days and try it again. You may be surprised by her changing moods.
Check your attitude
Although the Oral Sex Method is wonderfully simple and easy to follow, you must make sure that you go into it with the right attitude. The attitude that you must have at all times is patience. You will need patience the most when you first try practicing this formula on your woman and it will help you through the learning curve.
Before checking out this guide, you probably spent most of your time assuming you knew what your woman wanted instead of following her lead and actually giving her what she craved. As I’ve stated over and over, you will need to test out different methods to truly find what she wants from you. Having patience will lead you in the right direction to taking time to figure out her signals and try different methods to find her ultimate pleasure.
Without a cool head and willingness to try many different styles, this formula will not work for you. If you give up after just a few methods or stop before you start getting the signals of pleasure from your woman, you will not be able to bring her to the heights of ecstasy that she so desperately needs. This formula is guaranteed to work if you have patience because it is based around her reactions and her pleasure.