You’ve already decided to make a permanent change in your life and I’ve just given you some very solid information on how to do it. Now it is time to explore the actual techniques involved in making your changes. I’ve split them into two sub-groups: psychological and physical. In order to enjoy a new you in the bedroom, you’ll need to master both of them.

Premature ejaculation occurs when you are so aroused that there is nothing you can do to stop yourself from ejaculating. It happens almost automatically. This intense level of arousal can happen because of one of two reasons. Either the arousal is the result of physical stimulation or the arousal comes from the thought patterns inside your head.

By mastering the thought patterns in your head you can regain control of your levels of arousal. When you gain control of your levels of arousal you will have control over when you ejaculate.

The aim of this section of the guide is to give you some new perspectives and techniques that will help you gain more control over your thought patterns. With control over your thought patterns you will gain control over your levels of arousal and therefore also over your ejaculation.

A common cause of premature ejaculation is building up sex to be this great big event in your head. As you slowly work up towards the event you can probably feel yourself getting more and more excited. You’re thinking about how amazing it’s going to feel to be inside your woman. You’re probably thinking about how attractive she is. You’re probably thinking about the satisfaction of finally breaking all of the sexual tension.

All of the thoughts like this combined together will soon have you shaking with excitement before having sex. The build-up is so intense that when it finally comes down to it you’re so excited that you’re literally waiting to blow. This unfortunately is one of the big problems when it comes to premature ejaculation.

If you make sex out to be this tremendous event, then when the time finally comes there really is nothing you can do to save yourself from exploding on entry. If you want to last longer you need to find a way to control your arousal before you even begin starting to have sex.

One of the best ways of controlling these intense levels of arousal is to change your perspective on sex. You cannot afford to be thinking that sex is this massive event where you lose complete control. You need to realize that sex is just sex. People have been having sex for millions of years and it’s no big deal. These millions of people seem to have survived the process. You wouldn’t be here if they hadn’t.

The bottom line is that sex is a very normal and natural thing and is something that just happens and is nothing to get overly excited about. Most people have sex more than a thousand times in their lives and some people have sex with more than a thousand different people in their lives. The truth is that it’s really not that big of a deal.

You’ve got to go in with the attitude that whatever happens this time you have sex; it’s only going to take up one insignificant fraction of time in your entire life, so relax. The woman you are with has probably had sex before and she has probably had sex with some guys who were incredibly bad at it.

The fact of the matter is that after reading a guide like this you will probably be one of the best guys she has ever slept with.

If, however, your situation happens to be that the woman has never slept with anyone else before, then she has nothing to compare you to, so relax. She has no idea how long it’s normal to last in bed. You might not be aware of this, but the average time for a guy to last in bed with a woman is about 5-6 minutes, and that’s average. Think of the some of the guys she would have been with that would have lasted a lot less than that.

After reading and applying what’s in this guide you will be shattering the average time in bed. What I am trying to get at with what I’ve just said is that sex is really no big deal. The second you catch yourself getting super excited about having sex, just remind yourself that it’s one of those natural things that happens all the time and it’s nothing to get worked up about.

It’s important to realize that it’s no big deal, because when you do you can take control of your arousal and become more relaxed. If you’re more relaxed you’ll last longer.

When you have events, actions, places, or thoughts that a carry an emotional association, you have what’s called and anchor. An example would be water. Some people have an emotional association with large bodies of water, and when they are near pools or the ocean, they have an intense emotional reaction of fear of drowning. It is an incredibly common thing and is an emotional anchor.

These anchors also exist within the bedroom. Every single person on Earth has a different thing that gets them aroused. Some people just need to think of a certain celebrity or work acquaintance to get themselves off and some just need to caress a breast or inhale a woman’s perfume. It is something that’s different for everyone.

What you need to do is figure out what it is that gets you intensely aroused about your partner. If the intensity is strong enough, then you may have an anchor.

You will need to ask yourself a very specific question: “What makes me hard as a rock and ready to cum with just a thought?”

What you’re looking for is a specific anchor; it could be anything from when a woman touches you in a certain place or when you feel a certain part of a woman’s body, or when you think of a very specific image. What you’ve got to be sure to do is accurately identify what the anchor happens to be.

Once you’ve figured out the anchor you can take the next step. You have to stop this anchor from occurring. Remember; one of the most powerful ways to control ejaculation is to control your arousal.

If you can stop yourself from getting uncontrollably aroused you can stop yourself from ejaculating prematurely. So, if for example you get super-aroused when you smell a woman’s neck then what you need to do is stop smelling a woman’s hair before you have sex. Or if say, you get super-horny when you vividly picture yourself having intercourse in your head then you need to change the pictures running through your head before you have sex.

The technique sounds elementary but it really works. The chances are that you have something specific that strongly triggers your arousal. It might not always be obvious what it is, but when you identify it and then eliminate it you can begin to take control of your levels of arousal. If you control your arousal you can control your premature ejaculation.

NLP is a study of how language and pictures in your brain affect your nervous system. What it really comes down to is a study of the pictures and sounds you make inside your head that cause you to take the actions you take and feel the emotions you feel.

By learning to take control of those pictures and sounds you can take control of your actions and emotions. There’s a lot more to NLP than I can get through in this guide so I recommend you find out more, because some of the principles can really help with premature ejaculation.

What I will give you here is an example of some NLP techniques you can use to control your arousal. The aim of the exercise is to change how you experience sex inside your head so that you no longer build the event up to be an incredibly tense and arousing experience that leaves you out of control. Instead you will experience sex as a pleasurable event where you are in full control.

This process uses visualization techniques to change the thoughts that go through your head as you build up to and experience sex. By changing these thoughts you change how long you last in bed. If you’re not used to NLP or haven’t heard of it this exercise may seem a little different, but this type of exercise has proven to make massive change in people consistently. It is also one of the techniques used by NLP practitioners to eliminate strong phobias in people.

Here’s what to do:

Find a quiet relaxing place when you have 5-10 minutes free and do the following exercise all the way through. Please read the exercise through before attempting it.

1. Think back to a time when you were about to have sex and you were super-aroused and excited. Take a minute to really get back to that time and experience the moment.

a. What were you saying to yourself?

• Did you have a specific phrase running through your head at the time?
• Where you saying something over and over again?

b. What were you picturing in your head?

• Where was it? (In front, above, to the left, etc.)
• How big was it?
• How bright was it?
• How vivid was it?

2. Now imagine you are sitting in a theatre and on stage you see yourself on stage about to have sex. The person on stage (you) is experiencing exactly what you described above, except now you are watching that person experience the pictures and sounds from a distance.

3. As you sit in the theatre just watch yourself experience those pictures and sounds. You’re going to start changing how you see, feel and experience that event in your head.

• Take that person (still you) on the stage and make the experience black and white
• Now play the experience backwards as if it were a movie being rewound
• Run it backwards faster and faster
• Now play some funny music in the background, like circus music for example
• Now add all the colors of the rainbow to the image
• Keep rerunning it backwards faster and faster

4. If you mess around with the event for long enough in enough different ways, soon when you think of the event you should no longer find yourself being as aroused as you were just before sex. This process has literally changed the thought patterns in your brain and if you were in that situation again you should no longer feel such intense feelings of arousal.

5. Now see a new you on the stage in the same situation – about to have sex

a.This new you is aroused but in control. You are enjoying yourself and you are completely in control of your arousal. You are aroused, but not so much that you are ready to blow

b.What were you saying to yourself this time?

• Do you have a different specific phrase running through your head at the time?
• Are you saying something over and over again?

c. What are you picturing in your head?

• Where is it? (In front, above, to the left, etc.)
• How big is it?
• How bright is it?
• How vivid is it?

6. See and play the experience of a new successful you over and over again

7. Now fly up from out of your seat in the theatre and into the new you on stage.

8. Experience what it’s like to see those pictures and hear those sounds.

• Play this experience over several times

9. You now know what you’re like when you are aroused but still in control. Take the time to review this experience over and over again. The more you do this the more like this you will be the next time you have sex.

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