Sensual Massage To Strengthen Relationships – What is erotic massage?
Massage table or bed
Your partner is going to be lying down for quite some time. After an hour or more, the surface she is laying on is really going to matter. Make sure you create something for her that is soft and comfortable.
Using the bed that you sleep in is really not an ideal choice. Besides being difficult to maneuver around, it is also very low. The height will become a very serious problem for your lower back as you hunch over to massage her. Getting into the bed is also not a great solution because of the unwanted jostling and pressure for your partner.
The ideal massage bed or table is one that elevates your partner to about the level of your waist and can be easily worked around while performing the massage. If you are like most people, you probably don’t have a massage table. However, you probably have a table, such as a dining table, from which you can create your own massage table.
All you need to create a comfortable massage table is something for padding, such as some fluffy blankets, a comforter, pillows, or a sleeping bag or two, and a sturdy table or countertop, such as kitchen island, that allows you to reach your partner’s body from all sides. You will want to place no less than 6 inches of padding on top f the table or countertop. Once you have adequate padding, place a white sheet or a blanket or other soft fabric that is pleasing to the eye (even if you have to go out and buy something just for the massage occasion) over the padding. Although you can use pillows for the padding, if you give your partner a pillow for her head, make sure it is not too thick. A small, thin pillow works best. If your padding is sufficient, she should be comfortable even without a pillow.
Again, be sure the massage table is warm and comfortable. You can test it out yourself first by lying down on it. If you find the surface is too hard, just add some more blankets, the thicker the better.
Massage oil
One of the most basic, but most important items to consider is your massage oil. Using during the massage will help your hands glide over your partner’s body. The seductive nature of the massage will be enhanced greatly by its scent and warmth.
Although baby oil is popular, it is not the best choice for and erotic massage. It is too easily absorbed into the skin and you will find yourself having to add more quite often.
Massage oil need not be expensive; it just needs to be the right kind of oil for you and your partner. Oils with a light texture, such as those derived from plants, lead to easy gliding of the hands.
Below are some suggestions on what to look for:
- Almond oil makes for great massage oil. Although it’s a little higher in price than other oils, it’s worth every penny spent when using it for a home massage on your partner.
- Sunflower, grape seed, safflower, sesame, peanut, coconut, and avocado oils make great massage oils. They can be easily found it most grocery stores.
- To add to the sensuality of your massage oil, try adding a few drops of aromatherapy oil, such as chamomile or lavender. Each are excellent scents, just be sure they are high quality.
- Never use petroleum-based oils for massage (including baby oil). Although mineral oil is often touted as great oil for the body, many massage professionals don’t like the feel of it. It is also felt that plant-based oils are healthier for the body than mineral oils.
- When using plant-based oils for massage, keep in mind that they do not have a long shelf life. This means they can spoil and go bad. So buy only what you need for one or two massages and be sure to use the oil within 60 days, throw out any excess, and replace it with new oils.
- The question of how to apply the oil is completely up to you and your partner. Some people prefer to pour the oil into a glass bowl and dip their hands, while others prefer to use a squeeze bottle. Try both out with your partner and decide which you like best. Whatever you do, though, refrain from using a spray bottle. The sound simply isn’t romantic.
- Never squirt or pour the oil directly onto your partner. You will run a risk of the oil being either too hot or too cold when it touches her skin. Be sure to rub it between your hands and apply it through touch.
- Most importantly, never rub the massage oil onto your partner’s genitals. Her breasts are fine and very erotic, but never let it come into contact with her vagina. This will become especially important to remember as the massage nears its crescendo. Always keep a war, wet towel close by to wipe your hands before you move on to the more exciting part of your erotic massage.
- If you need lubrication for her genitals during the massage, use a personal lubricant or saliva. To make sure you are pre pared in every way, have some personal lubricant on hand, such as Sylk or Astroglide. Make sure you take time to keep it warm and out of sight prior to using it. An effective way to do this is to heat a damp hand towel in the microwave before the massage and then wrap the warm towel around the lubricant. You can then set it aside on a nearby table. When the time is right, you can use the damp towel to wipe the massage oil from your hands and replace it with the warm lubricant.
- When it comes to using the massage oil, the key is to keep it warm. The best way to do this is to heat the oil in a glass bowl or plastic squirt bottle in the microwave just prior to inviting your partner into the room for the massage. To keep the bowl or bottle of oil warm throughout the massage, wrap a warm towel around it that has been heated in the microwave or dryer.
Other mood-setting tips
There are a few other things you can do to enhance the massage environment and create a sensual mood. No matter if you incorporate just one or all of them, your partner is sure to enjoy the extra effort you put into ensuring her pleasure.
Food and drink: This can be a great massage mood enhancer. Although you don’t want your partner to have a full stomach while lying on the massage area, tasty little tidbits such as chocolate and fresh fruit are fun, especially when paired with an excellent choice of wine. Just be sure not to put the food or drink on her body. Remember: her body will be covered in warm oil, so you don’t want to kill the mood by placing something cold on her. You also won’t want to lick anything off her body.
Scents: Adding some scents to the room can also enhance the mood. You can easily stimulate her senses by using scented candles, burning incense, or spraying a few sprits of her favorite perfume around the room. Just be sure to use scents that you know are pleasing to her. Avoid using air fresheners to scent the room, as most of them just aren’t sexy.
Wine or mixed drink: If your partner enjoys wine, then be sure to get a bottle of her favorite wine and have a glass of it waiting for her when she enters the massage room. If she has a favorite mixed drink or cocktail, then make a pitcher of it for her. Having a glass of wine or a cocktail just prior to the massage can do wonders for her relaxation. Just be sure she doesn’t drink too much—you don’t want her to fall asleep!
Flowers: Most women love flowers. So as a finishing touch, you can never go wrong by placing a few flowers in the room—especially her favorite flowers! Rose petals are also excellent for creating a romantic environment. You can spread a few of them out on the floor around the massage table and on top of nearby furniture. Just be sure not to place them directly on top of the massage table, because if she lays on them, they will stick to her and get in the way of the massage.
Chapter summary
Your goal in setting up for your sensual and erotic massage is to create a sensual and romantic environment. It must also be free of any stress or distraction.
Create a relaxing massage environment includes: Elimination of interruptions, candles for lighting, soft, relaxing music, warmth and comfort, plant-based massage oil and other sensual mood setters, such as wine, food, flowers, and scents.
Assignment
Begin your search for the perfect massage oil for you and your partner. Invite her to some relaxing back massages with samples to find the one best suited to you needs.