Sensual Massage To Strengthen Relationships – What is erotic massage?

Emotions and sex go hand in hand

Sensual massage is an amazing way to strengthen your relationship with your partner and deepen your intimacy. This type of massage is very much like and extended foreplay session. When you explore your partner’s body through touch, you learn what makes that person relaxed, excited, and exhilarated.

But simply have good sex is not enough for most women. For them, sex is the same thing as emotional intimacy. If they do not feel a strong connection with their partner, they will not desire sex. For example, how often are men able to jump right into bed and have sex with their partner after an argument? Even though there are unresolved issues, men are still going to be interested in have sex. If a woman is upset, the last thing she will desire is sex.

If you are nodding your head in agreement right now, then good for you! At least you recognize the difference between males and females in this respect. But how much you understand may be an entirely different story.

Think about this: In the beginning of your relationship with your woman, you gave her quite a bit of attention. She was all you could think about. All you wanted to do with your time. She was the only woman that captured your interest. You dated her, maybe even surprised her with flowers and small gifts for no reason. You commented quite frequently how hot she was and how much she turned you on. But as time went on, she became less of a focal point for you. You found yourself wanting to spend more time with your friends or at work. Maybe now you have a few drinks with your buddies on Fridays or get together on the weekends to watch football. Now you only buy your lady flowers and gifts on special occasions. You still find her incredibly attractive, but you don’t tell her anywhere near as much as you did early on in your relationship—maybe only when you are looking to have sex with her.

This is why sensual and erotic massage is so important. It can help move you out of this sort of rut with your partner and give you a way to show her just how important she is to you. Women need this reassurance from their mates. Without it, they can never be truly happy. By taking time out of your busy life to stop and totally devote yourself to your partner by giving her a sensuous massage, you will please her both emotionally and sexually in a way like never before.

It’s important to keep in mind that sexual desire in a woman begins with sexual arousal. One of the best ways to go about creating sexual arousal within your partner is to satisfy her need for affection and emotional intimacy.

Erotic massage will create sexual arousal in your partner. Erotic massage is great at raising sexual tension and creating anticipation for sex. It’s that anticipation and tension that women love. By engaging her physically and emotionally, you will be able to achieve the ultimate state of sexual arousal.

If you want to be able to please your woman sexually, then you have to be able to reconnect with her on an emotional level. That is what makes this process of erotic massage so very important. It is the thing that will allow her to open herself up the levels of sexual arousal that you know she is capable of. Keep in mind however,
that No two women are alike. This is why it’s important to find out exactly what your lover likes and doesn’t like as you perform the massage. You can’t use intuition or tricks to get the job done. You have to make a sincere effort and pay attention to your lover and her responses. Erotic massage is not about tricking your woman into sex. It’s about sexually arousing your lady so that she wants to have sex.

Now that you have a better understanding of the essence of erotic massage and what it can do for you and your relationship, let’s take a look at just how to go about getting that erotic massage started. It all begins with preparing the environment and setting the mood.

Chapter summary

Erotic massage is about reconnecting with your partner through touch and intimacy. It is not about sex. Through it, you can meet your partner’s need for affection and grow your relationship.

Erotic massage can help you build a stronger relationship. It will increase sexual desire in your partner and it can help you meet her needs, both emotionally and physically.

Assignment

Discuss the things you’ve learned in this chapter with your partner. In doing so, you will introduce her to the idea of erotic massage and open her up to incorporating it into your relationship.

Let her know that you would like to practice the art of erotic massage on her so that (1) the two of you can reconnect with one another and build a stronger bond and (2) because you want to provide her with what she needs to feel loved and appreciated by you. Don’t worry about telling her you want to increase her desire for sex— that will come naturally as you meet her need for affection during the massage.

The set-up: Creating the mood and environment

One of the most important aspects of erotic massage is the preparation of the location. Before any part of the massage is to begin, you must create a space that is soothing and relaxing. The environment must encourage romance and a release of stress and inhibition.

Your first concern must be when the massage is to take place. You want it to be when you and your partner have a few hours to yourselves. Set it up a couple of days in advance to make sure that nothing will come between you. Take the preparation time to get you supplies ready. You must also out yourself in the proper mindset to be
will to perform when the time comes.

Below are some important tips to create the perfect sensual massage environment.

Eliminate interruptions

When performing the massage, you must eliminate anything that can serve as an interruption. This goes for your cell phones and any other electronic device that can vibrate or make noise. You will want to remove anything from the room that might become a nuisance.

Other distractions that you may not think of can include pets. Cats and dogs have tendencies to enter and exit rooms to become the center of attention. Speaking of which, you must consider your children.

If you have children, you might want to consider having your kids spend time at a friend’s house or have a family member take care of them for a couple of hours. If your schedule permits, you can also consider performing the massage while the kids are at school. Just imagine how surprised your partner would be if you came home from work early one day just to spend some alone time with her and to give her the sensual massage you’ve been talking about.

You will not want anything, not even the faintest beep of a watch or the sniffing of a dog’s nose under the door, breaking your concentration. So be sure to alleviate any interruptions that might keep you and your partner from having a relaxed and sensual environment. It’s very important to keep in mind that when performing a sensual and erotic massage, your goal is to connect both physically and mentally with your partner. To achieve this, both you and your partner will need to be able to slip into a state of mind that requires intense focus and concentration.

Music and sound

Music is extremely helpful in drowning out background noise. It is much more difficult to relax completely when you can hear the sounds of children playing outside or dogs barking. Music will also set the mood for romance and a peaceful environment.

You will want to choose something that is peaceful and slow. You don’t have to avoid anything with lyrics, but make sure that the singer’s voice is relaxing. Songs that have environmental sounds in the background can greatly enhance your relaxation. Sounds such as ocean waves or falling rain can do wonders with your stress. There are actually some very sensual and seductive musical tracks that are sold specifically for the act of massage. These are a great thing to look into.

Soft and romantically stimulating music would be the best. However, for extra fun you can plan your music mix to start off slow and gentle and ramp up in tempo until it crescendos into full blown love making rhythm – this makes for a very fun time. There is plenty of music out there like this or you can put together your own set. The main thing is to be creative and have fun! If you already know your lover’s music tastes, the stuff that turns her on, then by all means, please use that.

Remember: when it comes to music, the idea is to create a sensual environment—one that stimulates the senses and promotes relaxation, romance, and seduction.

Lighting

Lighting is also very important when it comes to creating a soothing and romantic environment. And what’s the most popular source of light that’s directly linked to romance? Candles, of course!

When preparing your massage environment, turn off all electrical light ing and fill the room with the light from several candles. The soft warm glow and flickering of candlelight sets a romantic and seductive space. It will also help you convey the message that you are giving a sweet and pleasurable massage with several seductive experiences to look forward to.

Be sure to test out the lighting beforehand to ensure you achieve adequate lighting. The key is to avoid making the room too dark or too light. You want the lighting to be enough to where you can comfortably see what you are doing, but dim enough to relax the mind and to help keep your partner from feeling too exposed while lying naked on the massage table or bed.

When using candles, be sure to place them in areas where they can safely burn. Avoid placing them too close to curtains or near anything that could easily ignite from the constant heat, such as paper and fabric.

Warmth and comfort

You must absolutely ensure that your partner is comfortable throughout her experience. Remember that she will be completely naked during your sensual massage, so she might get very, very cold. You must make your space cozy and warm for her.

If your room is cold to begin with, turn up the heat a few minutes in advance of bringing her in. If you have a space heater and can safely operate it within, all the better!

Keep in mind, though, that you don’t want it to get too hot in there. Remember that candles, although small, produce a heat of their own. After a little while, it can become uncomfortably hot, so don’t overdo it.

Be sure to keep in mind the needs of your woman. Some women tend to get cold easily, whereas others run naturally warm. If you sleep with the covers kicked off while your lady has them pulled up to her ears, then this might be a good indicator that she needs the room a little warmer than you do. However, don’t make the room so hot that you it causes you to break out into a sweat. Keep in mind that the massage oil you will be using will also be warmed for comfort, so this will help to warm your partner up, as will your hands moving sensually over her body.

Your partner may also not be comfortable undressing in front of you—it all depends on the state of your relationship. So to be on the safe side, when you ask your partner to undress and lie down on the table, either step out of the room or provide her with a robe that she can slip into after undressing in the bathroom or another
room. After she is lying down on the table, place a towel or a piece of silk fabric over her buttocks so that she does not feel so exposed at the start of the massage. You will also want to have another towel or additional piece of fabric to place over her breasts and pelvic region after she turns over. This is very important when it comes to keeping her from feeling vulnerable, as she is lying there naked in front of you. Although you may find her irritably sexy, she may not think so of herself at the time. However, as the massage progresses, your partner will eventually lose her inhibitions and open up to you, at which point she won’t care if she is completely exposed.

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