Sensual Massage To Strengthen Relationships -Tease and tantalize her
After such a long and intensive sensual massage, you should be in sync with your partner. Making sure that she is ready for the next step is incredibly important. You should be able to tell from her behaviors whether or not it is appropriate to move on.
The last thing you want to do is ruin the entire experience by trying to coax your partner into sex. If you any doubts about her feelings, it is best to step back the massage to stress relief and relaxation and end the session. Pushing her too soon will result in her hesitation to participate in any future massage endeavors. She will see sex as the purpose for your supposed caring and attention and you will have turned a very pleasant experience into a negative one.
However, if you’ve taken the steps laid out in this eBook, including environment, mood and technique, then she should be just as ready as you are to move forward. In short, by the time you’re about to transition to erotic massage, she should be completely aroused.
Important tips
Even if you think you know how to sexually please your partner, there are always things you can learn. In order ensure a more pleasurable sexual experience; please take these tips to heart.
- Make contact with her entire body before moving on to her breasts and vagina. Move your way across her neck, stomach, thighs and other less erogenous zones first.
- If her vagina isn’t already wet by the time you get there, use personal lubricant. Once her arousal is at its peak, her own natural lubrication should take over. Remember: don not use massage oil as lubricant.
- Be gentle, go slow and keep a steady rhythm. It will serve you much better than constantly switching things up, which can serve to frustrate her.
- Start penetration with your fingers. Begin with one finger and add another after she has become fully aroused. Move in and out very gently to begin with and make sure she is fully lubricated. Stimulate her clitoris while penetrating her, moving your fingers in and out.
- If you find yourself with a free hand, use it on her nipples. Don’t forget the rest of her body.
- Oftentimes, a woman will become very quiet and her body will grow very tense when she is on the verge of an orgasm. This is the most important time to get things right. Keep your movements steady and don’t change a thing. Once she starts to let go, ease up on the pressure and let her tell you when she’s finished with her body.
Below is a short list of the most common mistakes that men make. These can turn a good thing very bad:
- You’re too rough
- You fail to read her body and get offended when she tries to guide you
- Inconsistent rhythm
- You rush to penetration
- You stop at the worst possible moment
Keep every single but of the above information in your mind at all times and amazing things will happen. Now, let’s look at some erotic massage techniques.
Sexual tension
It’s time to tease your partner. You goal is not to bring her from sexual arousal to sexual desire.
With your lover still lying face up, gently remove the cover from her breasts. You can even lean down and give her a gentle kiss on her lips and her then her neck as you slide the cover off. Be sure to leave the one covering her hips and pelvis in place, however, as this will help add to her sexual tension.
Next, pour a liberal amount of warm oil into one of your cupped hands. Then slowly begin dripping the oil in your hand onto her exposed breasts and nipples. Play with this one for a moment, as it can be the ultimate tease. Then, replenish the oil in your hand and slowly start to drip it onto and into her belly button area. Make slow circles starting from the center and then move your way out to the outside edges of her stomach area. Let the oil drip seductively over the sides of her body as well.
She will begin to wonder where you are going to drip your liquid lube next. The more fun you can make this the better.
Now, take some more oil and drip it onto the upper surface of each leg starting just below her pelvis and continue all the way down to her feet and toes. Notice we skipped her vagina and other surrounding spots for now.
With her body liberally slathered in oil, start rubbing it with both hands over every square inch of her body, with the exception of her vagina, as already mentioned. Enjoy the process of gliding your hands over her hills, valleys, and everywhere else. As you learned before in the previous massage sections, remember that long slow strokes tend to produce the most sensual effect. So, you can start with her feet and run one long stroke up the sides of her legs either individually or both at once. Continue up the side of her pelvis, butt, and side of her upper torso. Once you reach her underarms, pull your hands up and over her breasts and then down to her stomach area. Massage her stomach gently and smoothly for a while.
The breasts
Breasts are incredibly arousing areas for both men and women. Since men love to touch them and women love for them to be touched, they are a great way to share a mutually fun experience.
Begin with your hands placed flat over her chest just slightly above her breasts. Then, you will want to pull each of your hands away from each other towards, and down to, the sides of her body. Now your hands will be flat against each side of her body just below her armpit area. From here, slide your hands all the way down her sides to just above her waist. Then, slide your hands up towards and on top of her stomach. Next, slide your hands up from her stomach back to her chest where they originally started. Repeat this move as many times as you and her enjoy it. You can as well reverse the move by circling both hands around in the opposite direction.
On the last round of the above movement as you are approaching her breasts, run your flattened hands directly over the tops of her breasts and up towards her shoulders, then run them back down over her breasts again. Then on your way back up, stop your hands right on top of her breasts and just hold them there for a few moments. Slowly, begin massaging both of her breasts with both hands in a very light squeezing motion. Another good breast massage technique is to place a hand on each breast, moving your right hand in a clockwise direction and your left hand in a counter clockwise direction. Massage directly over the breasts in circles for a few minutes.
It’s good to give the breast direct attention, but like any other body part, take a moment here and there to break your routine and explore other areas close to, but not touching her breasts, such as her upper chest, upper arms and shoulders, stomach, and sides of her upper torso again. This will soothe, tease, and create sexual anticipation on her part. You can then come back and continue on her breasts for further stimulation.
Her nipples
Her nipples are incredibly sensitive and can certainly get her going in the right direction when you play with them properly. Make sure you talk to her and find out what she likes and doesn’t like.
Using your thumb and index finger, gently and directly massage her nipples in a rotating motion moving clockwise and counterclockwise.
Next, place your hands flat over her nipples and roll around them using the palm of your hands. Now, taking your thumb and forefinger, gently pull up on her nipples to slightly elongate them. Switch around the above movements every so often and see which ones she likes and gets most excited over.
Now that you have a few basics, feel free to experiment and try your own movements and techniques. The idea here is to have fun and create pleasure for her. As a note of caution, if she isn’t that into it, move on and continue to explore other areas of her body.
Bring out her wild side
Your partner should now be ready for the grand finale. Don’t give it to her just yet, though. After her nipples, it’s time to tease her most erotic area: her vagina. The more time you spend teasing her, the better the finale will be.
Start of slowly and listen to her body. Increase pressures and rhythm with her movements and ask what she wants. Don’t be ashamed to not instinctively know what gets her off. Every woman is different and it’s the men who know how to communicate with them who are regarded as the best lovers.
Inner thighs
To get started, take about a teaspoon of oil onto your hands, and rub them together. Place one hand at the top towards the knee on each side of her leg. Now adding a slight inward pressure onto the leg with both hands, slide them down simultaneously towards her hip. As you reach the bottom of her leg, pull both of your hands down toward and over the backside of her leg and then run them up her leg back to your original starting position. So, your movement is kind of like a big oval shaped motion up and down her leg. With each downward movement, come closer and closer to her vaginal lips until after about five or six sweeps, start grazing the outer lips of her vagina, and with each sweep make more and more direct contact with her vagina.
Now, with her leg still resting over your shoulder, take the inside of your hand and place it right on top of her entire vagina. Hold this for a while without moving. After a moment add a slight amount of pressure onto her vagina and begin making very soft and slow circular movements.
Do this a few times and then work your hand back toward the bottom of her inner thigh and then repeat your oval shaped movement up and down her leg again. You will then want to switch legs and repeat each step, including the circular motions over her vagina.
Once you get to this point, your partner should be writhing with desire. So it’s time to give her what she wants.
Her private area
Now your partner should be begging for you to touch her vagina. Some woman are so aroused at this point that they orgasm with almost no contact whatsoever.
Once again, be sure to wipe any massage oil from your hands. If lubrication is necessary, use a personal lubricant such as Astroglide, Sylk, or K-Y Jelly.
You’ll want to be the focus on her intimate zone by gently stroking her pubic area over the outer portions of her vagina. Be sure to use very soft and gentle motions. Next, gently stroke her outer vaginal lips with your fingers, making sure to keep a consistent and regular rhythm.
To stimulate her clitoris, gently spread her legs apart and place your hand between her thighs in the form of a fist. Apply the knuckles of your first two fingers to the outer lips of her vagina and knead them around her clitoris, moving forward and backward as you massage. Make sure you’re not pinching her skin. You should be
gently kneading. Working your way downward, massage the entire labia with a slightly firm but gentle pressure. Make your way toward her anus and then lift your knuckles and start from the top again. You can also use your first finger and thumb if it feels more comfortable.
Better known as the two-finger stoke, this technique is one of the easiest ways to give a woman pleasure. Place your thumb and index finger comfortably just under the hood of the clitoris, just inside the lips. Gently rotate your fingers around the top of her clitoris and then move your fingers in a downward direction.
Be sure to massage and roll evenly, rubbing up and down on either side of the vagina, settling into an even rhythm. When she opens her legs wider, raises or pelvis, or pushes against your hand, that is your signal that she is ready for more direct stimulation of her clitoris.
When massaging the vagina and clitoral area, it’s helpful if you imagine the face of a clock, with the portion just above the hood of the clitoris being the 12 o’clock position and the lowest point near the vaginal opening being the 6 o’clock position. Pay attention to what she tells you feels good and make a mental note of the location in terms of the clock position for the next time around.
Now, take the tip of your finger and move it around her clitoris in a circular motion. Slowly move down the entire length of her vagina, alternating between bigger circles, stroking, and teasing caresses with your fingers. Next, move back to her clitoris and circle over it with the tips of your fingers. Be gentle when doing this, as every woman is different when it comes to clitoral stimulation. Some women don’t like it. So keep checking with her on what feels best using the clock as your guide. If she enjoys what you’re doing, attempt to pull the clitoris between your two fingers through the hood. Although it’s not possible to grip the clitoris itself, the sensation the pulling motion creates is incredible for her.
Next, you’re going to apply a stroke that works both the clitoris and the G-spot at the same time. If done correctly, it will bring her to orgasm.
After ensuring her vagina is well lubricated, insert one or two fingers, curving them upward so that you’re working on the vaginal wall closest to her stomach. Hold your finger motionless for a few seconds so that she has time to relax and get comfortable, then begin feeling for her G-spot.
The G-spot feels like a small, spongy lump. When a woman is aroused, the area will engorge with blood and become much more sensitive to the touch. After you’ve found her G-spot, move your finger in a “come here” motion, as if telling someone to come over to you with your finger. Don’t apply constant or hard pressure. All she needs is a gentle stroking motion to experience intense pleasure. You can also try a zig-zag motion from time to time so that your finger avoids focusing too much on the same area as it passes over the G-spot.
With your other hand, continue circling her clitoris with your thumb, finger, or the flat surface of a vibrator. When you sense she’s about to orgasm, move back and forth over the clitoris.
The clitoris is extremely sensitive. What you believe to be the proper amount of pressure and directness may seem much too rough to your partner. It will result in discomfort or pain for her. If you want to focus exclusively on her clitoris, wait until she is nearing her orgasm to do so. Once she’s over the crest, ease off until she relaxes a bit.