Sensual Massage To Strengthen Relationships - Relaxation is the key: Relaxing massage techniques
Legs and butt
Your next natural step is to move on to her buttocks, legs and feet. Start at the of of her shoulders with your palms facing down and slowly work your way down to her lower back, in a long slow stroke. Continue on down her butt, thighs, calves, feet and finally her toes. Since you’ll be working on her buttocks now, it’s finally time
to remove the fabric that you have covering it.
Now, reverse your direction by continuing up from her feet all the way up to her upper back again and then repeat a few times more. You don’t have to follow the same path strictly every time, so make sure to vary it using your own creativity. You can try running your hands all the way up and down the sides of her body from just below her armpits to her feet, or try a combination of both described methods on top of her body and the sides.
Switch around a few times and see what works well for you and her. The main point in this transition is to make long stroking movements all the way from one end of her body to the other, with your last transitional stroke leaving you at her legs and buttocks so that you can begin focusing on those new areas.
You’re going to start with her ankles here. On only one leg at a time, gently grab onto her calf with both hands, just above the ankle and slide your hands up to her butt.
Continue moving up and down her leg a few times. Add a kneading motion by grasping in and out with your hands as if squeezing a soft foam rubber ball. As you are running your hands up towards the top of her leg, use your thumb on the inside of her thigh while adding a firm pressure. It’s very relaxing and also very sensual for her to have your thumb getting in the proximity of her genitals. So don’t be afraid to tease her a bit.
Next, just like you wedged your hand underneath her upper torso in between her body and the surface she is laying on, do the same with her legs. This time, however, wedge your upturned palm underneath her leg and in between the surface it is laying on. Start at the upper portion of her leg near her hip, and then glide your hand all the way down the front of her leg to just above her kneecap. Next, with your hand completely wedged between her leg and the surface, glide your hand back up until you reach close to where her legs meet her hip. This will get your hands very close to her vagina, but remember to not yet directly touch her vagina, as you want to create a bit of anticipation and playful sexual tension first. Plus, your hands are still covered in massage oil, which is a no-no.
With your hand still wedged underneath her leg, begin kneading the underside her upper leg with your hand in the same fashion as was described for the top of her upper leg. Continuing this motion, move your hand slowly down her leg again as you rub her muscles all the way down just above her kneecap again. Do this move a few times up and down. With both moves described above, the weight of her leg resting on your hand as you stroke up and down will give a very firm and enjoyable experience. It is also a very sexy way to get near her genitals but still far enough away for her to keep her wondering when you will be getting closer and allowing her to build up some much desired sexual tension and arousal.
Proceeding down to her calf muscle, you will now be moving your hands back to the top of her leg again. When massaging the calf muscle area, be very gentle as this muscle can be quite sensitive to pressure on some people. Light to medium pressure works best. To start, take your hand and lightly grasp her calf just below the knee area. Now run your hand down her calf until you reach her ankle, and then slide back up again. You can add a kneading motion as well to this as you travel up and down for an extra soothing feel.
With one hand now supporting her raised foot, take your free hand and run it up and down her calf a few times while applying a firm pressure. You can also add a light kneading motion to this as well for and extra soothing experience.
While you have her leg in this position, it is now a good time to take advantage of one of her most sensually arousing erogenous zones. The skin on the back of a women’s knee where her knee fold is can be a very stimulating area for you to tease. While continuing to massage her calf, every so often make your way down to this area and begin lightly stroking it with your fingertips. You can add a few circular strokes as well.
With her lower leg resting on your chest, use both hands to rub up her calf in one direction toward her ankle. Repeat one hand moving over the other in a continuous and flowing motion. This will produce a soft sensation that will be very relaxing. One thing to note however when doing this particular movement is to go in an upward direction only, as some women may have shaving stubble on their legs and it will create an unpleasant, against-the-grain sensation, which is never good. Keep this in mind for next time, if you feel comfortable enough to ask your partner to shave before your massage.
Place both of your hands firmly onto your partner’s calf and begin sliding them towards the upper portion of her leg and buttocks. This is a nice transition move that naturally allows you to flow back again towards her more intimate areas, which you’re probably dying to get to right about now.
The idea is to create a back and forth teasing motion. So, focus on her calves for a bit, then glide on up to her upper leg and drift off towards her inner thigh. Focus on her feet for a while, then glide on up her leg again and then drift over to her inner thigh.
Now we’ll try something called the thigh cradle. It will tease her almost to the point of quitting her massage and pulling you down onto her table.
Wrap your hands around both sides of her upper leg to imitate a cradle. Then, move both hands up her leg as you add a bit of a kneading movement to the outsides of her legs with the ends of your fingers, and to the insides of her thighs with your thumbs. Continue your way up until you get dangerously close to her vagina. You should be able to feel the heat emanating from her most private area, and then move back down again.
Repeat this one quite a few times. If she is giving you the go ahead on this move, you are sure things will advance into more sexual play later. Not only is this a great tease for her, but you may find that it is also a highly arousing act for you as well.
The feet
The foot is a veritable superhighway of nerve endings and receptors. If you want to send your lover into sensual overdrive, you must learn to rub and massage her feet.
You’ll want to begin with her leg bent up slightly. Cradle her foot in the palm of both of your hands, then using your thumbs; apply a light but firm pressure into the arch of her foot near her heel. Work your way down towards her toes while making sure to apply pressure onto one thumb and then release as you are beginning to apply pressure onto the opposite thumb.
An alternative option is to walk your way down her foot using pressure from both thumbs at the same time. Try both and pay close attention to her reactions. Whichever one she seems to enjoy more should be the one you use.
Now, place one of your thumbs in the arch of her foot and glide it all the way up from her toe pads until you reach her heel, all in one continuous stroke. You can start at one side of her foot, such as the right, and then with each upward stroke, move a bit more to the left or until you reach the opposite side of the foot. Remember to apply a firm pressure but not too hard.
Now that you know how to use your thumbs on her arch, you can apply the same type of strokes onto the heel of her foot. The heel itself is usually pretty thick skinned and tough, so you’ll probably want to apply a bit more pressure with your thumbs. Using the same basic technique as you did on her arch, walk your thumbs across from side to side and up and down her heel, covering the entire area.
On her toe pads you can do the same as above but with a slightly lighter pressure. Walk your thumbs over her pads alternating with both thumbs and move up and down and from one side of her foot across to the other, stopping at each pad for a little individual attention.
When massaging the toes, you can use your fingers as well as your thumbs, but they are delicate, so you only want to use light pressure here. With the bottom of her toes facing you, glide your thumb up over her big toe from bottom to top and repeat this stroke four or five times. Then move over to her next toe and do the same, up and down bottom to top. Continue this on all toes by moving over one toe at a time until you reach her little toe.
The webbed area in between her toes is another great place for sensual play. Making sure your fingers are nice and oily, take your index finger and slide it in and out of the space between each of her toes, slowly and suggestively. Begin with the space between her big toe and then move on to the next toe, and again move to the
following toe space, until you get to the last one next to her little toe. Doing this is highly sensual and should ignite her imagination.
Chapter summary
Do not take any of these actions while expecting anything in return from your partner. The act or sensual massage is for her enjoyment and pleasure. You should share that enjoyment with her, but not act out of a desire to trick her into sex.
First, you must relax your partner. The best way to achieve that is begin your massage with her buttocks.
You must work on her tension first. People carry most of their tension in their back, neck and shoulders. After these areas, you can move onto arms, legs and everywhere else.
Woman love a foot massage. This is the turning point from relaxation to a sensual massage.
Assignment
You need to practice, practice, and practice. You can not master any of these techniques without practicing on you partner. Experiment with simple sections of her body until you feel that you’re ready to try the full erotic massage. This will even serve to increase the anticipation and buildup of sexual energies if you stretch it out
over the course of several days. Just be sure to no waste it by engaging in sex before the full-on spectacle.
Entice her
Her front side
Your partner’s back is the source of her tension and stress. That’s why you began there. But, now, it’s time to move onto her front side! Consider that the source of her pleasure.
Whenever she is ready, ask her to turn over. She may feel a little too exposed in this position without anything to cover herself, so be sure to offer her the towel or fabric that you used on her buttocks earlier. She’ll most likely feel better if her breasts and pelvis are covered.
Again, you’re doing this for her enjoyment, so ask her if she’s still warm enough. She’s bound to feel a little chill after turning over. If need be, you can cover her with a light blanket of extra towels. Remember, you can cover and uncover parts of her body as you work on them and move on. It may even be a little fun to play a little sneak and peak game. Obviously, every woman is different, so this is a good opportunity to show her that you care about her comfort by making sure that she’s okay.
Before you continue the massage, give her a few moments to relax into her new position. You can also ground her by placing your hands on her belly and heart. This is one of those biological touching things that we discussed earlier and will show you how much you care.
Since she’s moved around a bit, you’ll need to go about relaxing her just a little again. As with the shoulders and neck carrying tension in the back, it is also carried in your face and scalp in the front.
Face and scalp massage
Most women absolutely adore attention on their head and face. It’s an amazing way to connect in a very intimate way, since most people don’t go around touching each other in the face. You may feel the desire to give her a quick kiss or whisper something loving into her ear. Go with it.
You must take care that any touch to her face is done with the utmost gentleness. The same is true for her scalp, but to a lesser extreme. Also, stroking her will add a lovely, comforting touch.
Now, with your fingers spread, slowly and delicately slip them through her hair while applying a slight pressure downward to her scalp. As you do this, you can also move your fingers around in small circular motions. The sensation is one of the best you can create while giving her a massage. It is rare to do this one without lots of very pleasurable moaning and groaning going on. Use your thumbs here as well as you will be able to apply a bit more pressure with them.
The neck muscles in the back of your partner’s head tend to be very major stress holding points and giving them a good rub will help her to relax and release any tension she has in that area. With your hand facing up, walk your fingers way down the back of her head until you feel where her neck muscles meet her head. Then, begin pulling your fingertips towards you in a “come here” motion while stroking these muscles up and down. The closer you massage to the connection points the better. You can even stop along the way and just hold pressure there for ten seconds or so and then continue on.
Move up to her face and temples. Applying a very light pressure with your fingertips, make slow soft circular motions to these areas. Your movements should reach as far back as the fronts of her ears, up to her the sides of her forehead, and down to her cheekbones.
Vary the sizes of your circles from the center outward from small to large and then back in again. This will ensure that every area of possible tension is addressed.
Now, taking the flat part of your downward turned and closed fingers, move up to her forehead. Starting from the center of her forehead with your fingertips from each hand touching each other, begin pulling them away from each other across the skin of her forehead until you reach down to just above her temples. Place your fingertips back together over her forehead again and repeat a few more times. Light pressure is the key here, especially on a woman’s face, as you don’t want to overstretch her skin or muscles.
From her forehead, move down to her cheeks. Again with the flat part of your closed fingertips, make slow soft circular motions over the skin and muscle. Do this a few times. The best direction is to start your motions inward towards her nose at the top of the cheek, and then outward towards the sides of her face at the bottom of the
cheek.
Be sure to spend 5-10 minutes massaging your partner’s scalp and face. It’s the best way to relieve all of that stress.
Belly rub
Now you can move on to her belly. Rubbing the stomach is a very comforting and nurturing action. Lightly stroking it, whether or not you’re giving her a massage, will make her feel safe and taken care of. Since it can make you feel such a strong connection, it is also a strong arousal point for women. Just be certain, once again, to keep it light here. Slightly too much pressure can cause discomfort and even pain. Watch her face. If she looks like she’s in pain, she is. Move on to a different area.
Start by placing both palms of your hands down over her belly. Begin the massage by using a sliding motion, alternating your hands across her stomach from side to side. Side to side is the best direction to go as up and down over the belly can sometimes create discomfort. Continue this motion back and forth for or as long as she
is enjoying it.
You can extend your movement beyond her stomach area by reaching down over the sides of her body down towards the surface she is laying on. When you reach the bottom of this movement, wrap one or both hands underneath her back and then pull back up over her side and belly again, following through to her other side in the same way.
You can also run your hands in circular clockwise motions around her belly. You can start at the center around her navel and then progressively begin making bigger and bigger circles around her entire belly until you reach the outside perimeters. Then, just continue massaging around and around in smooth, slow, soft circles. Doing this can be quite pleasurable for her and evoke many sweet and loving emotions.
Arm stretches
With your partner’s arms resting up over her head, place your hands just around the point where they connect to her chest muscles. Next, move your hands up her arms all the way to her fingertips, and then lightly grab her hands and begin pulling her arms upward over the top of her body and then bring her arms back down to her sides and let them rest there. Continue with light strokes to her arms from your hands and fingertips. Lightly stroking the sensitive skin on the insides of her arms where the elbows fold is another erogenous zone that women usually love. Do a few sensual grazes with your fingertips to get her turned on.
Another way to stretch her arms is by holding one arm at a time in both of your hands while gently pulling and stroking upwards all the way to her hand. This will massage the long muscles in her arms as well as muscles in her shoulders and sides of her body. Remember to be gentle however, as you don’t want to pull so hard as to
create discomfort.
You can reverse this move if you like and run your hand all the ways back down her arm again. Repeat this a few times and then move on the next arm and do the same.
Now, you can try to pull her arm to one side so that you cause her body to twist slightly and expose her back. Once there, you can now massage her back in this nicely stretched position. Whenever you can stretch long muscles like this, it gives a more tension releasing experience to the receiver. Do a few strokes here onto her upper shoulders and middle back muscles in a vertical fashion. You can also do horizontal strokes starting from her lower back on up to her shoulders by mostly using the heel of your hand to massage. Just make sure that you’re not causing any pain to her back.
Full body stroke
This is just as it sounds on the box. You want to start at one end of her beautiful body and move to the opposite ends. Make a point to carry out this stroke often. It will stimulate a lot of her nerves and increase both her pleasure and arousal.
If you think she can handle the excess arousal, gently float both of your hands over one side of her body. They should just be touching her skin. You don’t any pressure on your hands at all.
From her shoulders, begin floating your hands over the top of her body and lightly graze the sides of her breasts. Continue over her belly, around the curve of her hips, and down her upper leg. Next, dip down into her thigh, down over her shin, and then slide your hands the rest of the way down to her feet. You can either reverse this motion and go all the way back up to her shoulder/neck/ head area or move around her body to the opposite side and continue up from there. Don’t be afraid to try both. Also, be sure to try different directions and combinations. This technique is really fun, sexy, and very stimulating for her.
The hug
Sensual massage should mostly be a very soft and gentle experience, but there is some space for manly behavior. The hug is the perfect way to achieve this.
With your hands placed flat on each side of her body, begin to move them underneath her backside until you completely embrace her body with your hands and arms. While you’re down in the vicinity, it’s a nice time to kiss her chest in between her breasts. Try a few small kisses around the edges of her breasts as well. Teasing her in
this way will increase her anticipation as she wonders even more when you are going to go all the way.
Now, as you are pulling your hands back out from behind her back; pick her body up slightly so that her back is arched. Then, with the ends of your fingers, apply a bit of pressure and depth into her back muscles and along the sides of her body as you pull upwards. This gives a very strong and relaxing effect to her muscles and relieves a great deal of tension.
After this, you can continue with your hands up to her chest and breasts by bringing your hands together just about where her upper stomach meets the bottom of her ribcage, then run them up through the center of her chest above her breasts. Split your hands apart towards either side of her body and then bring them down her sides while skirting her breasts. Now, bring your hands all the way down her sides to her hips. Then, bring your hands together again at her stomach and repeat this a few times with every upward and downward movement circling over her breast until you finally reach right over the top of her breasts and nipples. This is a very sensually tantalizing and teasing move that will be fun and extremely exciting for both of you.