Giving Her An Orgasm - Chapter 8: Level 3: Release – Details on the Orgasm
The Advantages of Many Orgasms
Some women never even entertain the notion of having many orgasms in one session. They don’t think about it because many of the men they are with are not able to make one orgasm happen for them, much less many orgasms.
Don’t believe her when a woman tells you that she can’t have an orgasm. She shouldn’t believe it herself. Every able-bodied woman has the ability to have an orgasm. All they need is for it to be initiated properly.
When you give her the first orgasm; you will achieve peak arousal in your partner and you will also be setting her up for more orgasms to follow. She will be completely relaxed and sensitive to the touch right after orgasm so she will be ready and receptive of more stimulation. If you settle in for a little relaxation time and cuddle for a bit right after the first orgasm; it will give you both a chance to recharge before you start the next slow build. She will already be midway up her arousal scale by the time you start stimulation again.
So you see that there are multiple advantages to multiple orgasms. The first orgasm already has her prepared for the second and third orgasm so the orgasms come effortlessly.
Her body is completely at ease. Her nerve endings are jumping around everywhere. She is very sensitive to the touch and she is already midway up her arousal scale. There is no better time to give her an orgasm.
This is why I say that you shouldn’t believe women who say they can’t have orgasms. Most women are naturally inclined to have multiple orgasms. If they have one orgasm; they are able to have another one with less effort and another one after that. As long as you don’t over-stimulate her sex organs; you can continue giving her as many orgasms as you like (or as many as she can stand).
Remember that, right after an orgasm, her clitoris will still be enlarged, sensitive and red. You don’t want to begin more stimulation right away. Allow her a cool-down period so she can go back down her arousal scale a bit and give her clitoris a chance to recover. Then you can start stimulating it again very slowly and begin building on her arousal. This can be repeated many times as long as you allow for short rests in between. These rests can be used for additional cuddling and bonding.
A break in between orgasms is actually the best thing for both of you. You are the one providing the stimulation so you’re going to need a cool-down period as well. Try placing your hand softly over her vagina after she has had an orgasm. Kiss her and cuddle with her. When you feel that you both have had proper rest; you can start to apply a little bit of pressure and start moving your hand around.
The way she responds will let you know whether you can start arousing her again.
If you start to move your hand around and you hear a moan or a sigh; you’re on the right track. She could also respond by grabbing your hand and pulling it toward her if you try to move away.
Do Women Really Squirt?
There has been some debate whether a woman who “squirts” is actually ejaculating or urinating. If you are stimulating the G-spot on a woman and she squirts out a clear, semi-thick liquid then it’s definitely not urine. It might feel to her as if she is going to urinate, but that is a natural feeling that occurs when you stimulate her G-spot.
Females have glands that are similar to a man’s prostate. The fluid that you see when a woman ejaculates is produced by that gland. The liquid that is produced in a man flows out from the prostate and through the urethra. When a woman squirts; her ejaculatory fluid flows from her glands and out of her vagina. These glands always produce liquid during sexual arousal. This liquid is sometimes released when the G-spot is stimulated.
Assure your partner that, if she ejaculates or “squirts” it is not urine. There have been studies that show that the liquid that flows out during female ejaculation is quite different from urine. This liquid is clear and urine has color to it. Urine has a distinct smell. When a woman ejaculates, the liquid has no smell.
Just to be sure and to put her mind at ease; she should go to the bathroom prior to beginning sexual relations. Make her aware that she will be feeling sensations of urinating because of the way you will be stimulating her. If her bladder is empty; she will feel at ease and ejaculate if her G-spot is stimulated well enough. If you know that you will be stimulating her G-spot; it’s always good to put something down on the bed so her fluids won’t get the bed wet.
Helping Her Ease Her Mind
So you have reassured your partner that she is not going urinate during G-spot stimulation. You have let her know that the feeling is natural and that any liquid that comes out will be ejaculatory liquid. She might still be nervous about having the urge to urinate. It’s okay if she has hesitation, but worrying about it is just going
to hinder her sexual gratification.
This could be a problem for her orgasm. If she is too preoccupied with whether she is going to urinate; her body will tense up in a bad way before she is able to reach peak arousal. She is supposed to feeling completely relaxed and blissful, but she is stressing out and becoming distracted or agitated. This could prevent her from having an orgasm at all.
This is why you need to make an effort to create a bond with her before you get in bed. Put her at ease and let her know that she can trust you. Free her mind so she will feel comfortable in letting herself go and allowing herself to have a deep and satisfying orgasm. Let her know that her orgasm is your main intention and you would not steer her wrong.
Asking her to urinate before sexual intercourse isn’t enough. You need to focus on her relaxation above anything else. Her relaxation should be the number one priority even before orgasm. This is because the orgasm just cannot be achieved is she is worried or preoccupied. She might still be able to squeeze out an orgasm, but it is
not going to be as deep and memorable.
The reason why I showed you so many relaxation and massage techniques is because of the importance of her feeling relaxed. She needs to know that feeling like she is going to urinate is a good feeling. She needs to know that this feeling is a sign that she is about to have an earth shaking orgasm. If she learns to associate that feeling with deep sexual satisfaction then she is going to have no trouble relaxing.
Also, let her know that it is okay if she “wets the bed”. As long as she knows it is not urine; she won’t be freaked out when she gets so wet that she soaks the bed a little. This is natural. The more you stimulate her G-spot and the more you learn to intensify the pleasure; the more she will ejaculate.
If all else fails; try G-spot stimulation in the bathtub. This way, if the feeling washes over her, she will not be worried about making a mess. She will see how good it feels to ejaculate like that and she will be more comfortable to try it in bed next time.
Learning How to Make a Woman Squirt
One way to help ease a woman’s mind and make her feel comfortable to squirt is to go to the bathroom with her when she goes pee. It may sound strange at first, but bear with me.
The key to this method is to make her feel completely comfortable with you. If she feels weird at first, that’s okay. It gives her a chance to get over the awkwardness of doing something like this in front of you. You want to stay in the bathroom with her until she is completely comfortable with you sitting there while she is
urinating.
When she finally relaxes and starts to urinate in front of you; say something like, “see it’s not a big deal”. Let her know that you are there with her in that moment and there is nothing strange about it. She needs to know that you aren’t self-conscious about these things and that she shouldn’t be self-conscious either. Try doing this a few times until you notice that she is totally at ease with urinating in front of you.
The next time you stimulate her G-spot, give her a few moments to build on her arousal. When you feel like she’s getting close, start talking to her like you did in the bathroom. Remind her that she can trust you and that she can let go in front of you. Give her encouragement and let her know that you want her to have a full release. Let her know that all this stimulation is about to lead to an explosion of pleasure.