Giving Her An Orgasm - Chapter 7: Level 2: Arousal- Approaching Peak Arousal
Fingering Styles
When you are stimulating her G-spot; you want to go slow and steady just like with every other part of the female orgasm process. Slow build is always the key with every step of the process. That is just how women work. Keep the stimulation slow and steady until she starts rising up her arousal scale and progressively get faster until you have reached an optimum speed. You hold that speed and pressure until she has an orgasm.
You never want to over-stimulate her by going too fast for too long. She will get numb to much of the sexual pleasure you are trying to provide. When you start every stage with a slow build; you add to her anticipation and build on her excitement. Her pleasure is much deeper when you slowly take her up her arousal scale rather than
trying to rush anything.
A slow build saves your energy and strength as well. You want to save up your stamina for when it counts. You don’t want your hands or arms to start to cramp from too much strain. When you slow down you are assuring that she has deep orgasms and that you have the energy to apply the right pressure and speed at the right moment.
We will cover four fingering styles for the second orgasm. Practice each one until you have perfected them all. That way you can pull out any of the styles at any time to surprise your lover.
Fingering Style # 1: Up and Down
This fingering style can be done with one or two fingers. More advanced lovers will try three fingers but that depends on her preference.
- With your fingers touching on or around her G-spot; start moving your finger(s) in an up and down motion. You will be bending your fingers and curling them back up toward her pubic bone. You don’t have to keep them on her G-spot. Keep brushing over it as you move your fingers up and down and it will drive her wild.
- Start with slow movements with low pressure and stay there for about a minute. Slightly increase the pressure and speed and stay there for another minute. Speed up and reach her optimum pressure for another minute or until you feel her vagina clamp down on your finger.
Precaution:
Be mindful of your fingernails while using this style. You could scratch her inside her vagina and that can be painful. Keep your nails trimmed and make sure not to curl your fingers enough to come in direct contact with the walls of her vagina.
Fingering Style # 2: In and Out
- Keep your finger on the G-spot. Move your finger a couple of inches in and out of the vagina. You will be rubbing your finger over her G-spot with each stroke.
- Start with slow movements with low pressure and stay there a minute. Increase the pressure and speed and stay there for another minute. Speed up to reach her optimum pressure and stay there for another minute until you feel the squeeze.
Fingering Style # 3: Circular Style
- Keep your finger(s) on the G-spot. Move them around in a circular motion all around the spot.
- Start with slow movements with low pressure and stay there a minute. Increase the pressure and speed and stay there for another minute. Speed up to reach her optimum pressure and stay there for another minute until she has an orgasm.
Fingering Style # 4: The Tap
- This style is a version of the Up and Down style. While you are curling your finger and moving it up and down, you start moving your entire hand up and down as well.
- You will be using your entire arm to move your hand up and down so her body will start to move up and down or bounce as well.
- If she starts bouncing too much, apply light pressure to her hips with your other hand to hold her down.
- Start with slow movements with low pressure and stay there a minute. Increase the pressure and speed and stay there for another minute. Speed up to reach her optimum pressure and stay there for another minute.
- Just in case she doesn’t have an orgasm by this time; slow down to your original speed and pressure and start the climb in intensity over again.
