Giving Her An Orgasm - Chapter 7: Level 2: Arousal- Approaching Peak Arousal
The 1st Orgasm by Clitoris
The first orgasm will come directly after the massages that we discussed in the previous chapter. She should be a few levels up her arousal scale and her clitoris is probably enflamed and excited. This is when she is ready for you to go down on her.
The best part of your body that you can use to give her clitoral stimulation is your tongue. It’s warm, wet and spongy and feels really good on her clitoris, especially since she is already aroused. The tongue is a powerful tool, but don’t overdo it. You don’t want to just start licking away like a lap dog. Everything with the female orgasm is a slow build and the clitoris is not different. The last thing you want to do is over-stimulate it until numbing occurs.
I will also show you a technique that is designed to test if you are licking her in the right place. It is a technique that involves using your fingers to gauge her arousal. We will go over that in more detail in a moment.
Preparing for Oral Sex
Don’t dive in just yet. Let’s go over the best position for you and your partner during oral sex.
When you approach oral sex, there are many choices of positions that you can get into for oral stimulation. Some positions are better than others. We are going to go over the best positions that will promote female sexual arousal. Her comfort is important and you comfort is important as well. You need to be in a good position to apply the techniques and she needs to be in a good position to receive them. She needs to be in a position where she is completely relaxed and the sexual energy can flow through her body.
Some men complain that they don’t go down on women because of the discomfort and hassle involved. If you are in the right position; you will be comfortable enough to administer the techniques needed to achieve female orgasm without feeling discomfort.
Getting her into position:
- Be sure she is lying flat and her lower back is on the bed
- Her legs should be spread just enough for you to get between them
- Her legs should be bent and her vaginal opening should be pointed slightly upward* s so that it is pointing toward your lips
- She should be in a position of relaxation so that no part of her body is feeling pressure or discomfort in any way
Getting you into position:
- Your body should be aligned with hers
- Rest your hands on each side of her thighs or lie on your stomach
- Your mouth should be positioned near the vaginal opening so you can easily insert your tongue
- Rest your top lip on her clitoris or just above it
- Your nose positions near her pelvic bone
If you are in the right position; you should be able to look up into her eyes as you are giving her oral sex. Eye contact, as I have mentioned, stimulates arousal in women.
When you are performing oral sex and you feel that you have to strain your neck too much then just put a pillow under her bottom. This will bring her vaginal opening up to a comfortable position to approach it with your mouth. You will be able to lower your head directly on to her vagina without having to bend your neck.
It is okay to use a pillow to elevate her, but it could ultimately end up getting in the way. Pillows also become flat after a while and it defeats the purpose. Try your best to get in a comfortable position without using a pillow. If you need her vagina to be angled more toward your mouth then raise her legs up slightly and you
should be fine.
If you really want to use a pillow then buy some kind of specialty pillow or memory foam cushion. You want something that is going to stay stationery and not flatten out during oral sex. You can also use some of these pillows to place under her lower back during penetration so her pelvis will be angled up toward you.
Now we are ready to begin oral sex.
Oral Sex Part 1 – Let’s Begin
The first time you touch your mouth to her vagina is the most important. This sets the tone for the entire process. Remember to tease her and build on her sexual arousal before the first lick and it will be that much more powerful.
Preparation
1. Begin slowly giving her soft kisses around the outside of her labia majora. Go up one side then the other. Remember to take it slow through each process.
2. Begin slowly giving her the same types of soft kisses, but this time you will be kissing her labia minora or inner lips. Go up one side then the other.
3. Keep a steady series of kisses on each side and let each kiss linger for a moment. You want to cover every part of her outer then inner lips with kisses.
Execution
1. Now it’s time for the tongue. Begin at the very bottom of the vaginal opening and apply light pressure.
2. Start moving your tongue upwards. Let her feel each movement that you make. Run your tongue all the way up her vagina going over the opening and spreading over the labia minora.
3. Run your tongue all the way up to the clitoris and pull back on the amount of pressure.
4. Keep running your tongue over the clitoris and stop just above it at the mons pubis. You should be able to feel the shaft of her clitoris as it enters the clitoral hood. Apply more pressure on the shaft and start moving your tongue around in a circular motion. She will want you to keep doing this, but you only do it for a moment
and stop.
5. Run your tongue back down past the vaginal opening and back to the bottom of the vagina where you started.
6. Run your tongue back up her vagina. This time keep your tongue over the entire opening and cover as much of her lips as you can.
(See illustration on next page)
Tips for optimum results:
- Once again. Go slow. It’s all about the slow build. If you try to rush her up the arousal scale her pleasure isn’t going to be as deep or gratifying.
- The entire lick from bottom to top should take about 10 or 15 seconds and the same going back down. Pause for a moment when you are at the clitoris before going back down.
- Don’t be afraid to keep count of the amount of seconds for each lick. Just be sure not to do it out loud.