Giving Her An Orgasm - Chapter 6: Level 2 – Arousal

 

Part 1: Preparation

This stage was discussed in the previous chapter. This is where you will set up the surroundings to promote the deepest relaxation for your partner.

It might sound strange, but I want you to take her into the bedroom then leave again. Keep her in there just long enough to soak in the sexy and relaxing surroundings then walk out.

This will add to the teasing factor and her anticipation will start to build faster. You have given her a taste of the bedroom then surprised her by taking her out again. She will be wondering what you are going to do next and you will have the perfect thing prepared.

Part 2: Bath / Shower

Taking a bath or a shower before sexual intercourse can have multiple advantages. You will both be wet and slippery and come out of this stage feeling and smelling your best. Her skin will be extra soft and supple and she will probably become more sensitive to the touch. You may think that a bath is the most romantic, but I prefer a shower. A shower doesn’t take as much preparation. I have found that a bath works best if she has had a particularly hard day and you need a little more time to help her melt her troubles away. Otherwise, you might want to take a shower and move through it quicker so as not to slow the elevation of her arousal.

What do you accomplish with a bath or shower?

• Cleaning both of your bodies is a big advantage when approaching sexual intercourse. All the sweat or odors that have accumulated throughout the day will be washed away. It baffles me how many people have intercourse without taking a shower first. There may be smells or dirt on either of you that you don’t know about. The last thing either of you want is for you to attempt oral sex on her and have to fight a fishy smell. I’m not saying that we all stink within minutes of showering, but cleaning yourself and enjoying the other relaxing properties of a shower or bath is more than enough reason to add it to your sexual routine. You are more than likely having sexual intercourse toward the end of the day. That means that you have gone to the bathroom more than once. What if you missed something? Both of you want to be able to explore each other’s bodies without worrying about running into any unpleasant smells or tastes.
• The relaxation that a shower or bath gives her will relax you as well. Both of you are put in a state of bliss that gives you your first separation from the hustle and bustle of daily life. It is the fastest and most effective bridge between the stresses of life and the gratification of sex. Remember not to rush through whether you take a shower or a bath. Take your time during this phase and keep slowly building on her arousal.

Part 3: Body Massage

After a relaxing shower or bath; she will be in a perfect state to receive an initial massage. When you first begin the massage; it will mostly be for relaxation purposes with sexual arousal being secondary. You are just trying to relax her here and you want the elevation of her arousal to be subtle.

Be sure to put some type of towel on the bed before you start that is big enough to catch any massage oil that you may use. Some just use baby oil, but there are also oils that are designed specifically for massage and can do everything from moisten the skin to warm it.

Plus, the towel might come in handy later in case her orgasm is so explosive that you get bodily fluids on the bed.
Don’t worry if you don’t have any formal massage training. I will explain how to do it in detail. I will give you an easy to follow guide to the best massages and when to use them.

The massage techniques I give you are simple but very effective. I will not only teach you where to massage. I will also teach you when to massage and how to massage her to get the most desirable results.

The first goals of a massage:

During the massage stage; you must stay focused on the massage itself. Don’t focus on how this massage is going to lead to her orgasm. Your goal right now is relaxation and anticipation. Allow yourself to feel the pleasure of touching her and her responding to your touch.

Here are some ways to approach a massage for the best results. If you keep these goals in mind, it will be easier for you to focus on the moment and keep both of you in a relaxed state.

• Mental and physical relaxation is a must during massage. It’s not time to escalate the touching or arousal yet. Focus on each stage one at a time and the end result will be that much more glorious.
• If you make your main goal relaxation during this stage; the female orgasm will be much easier to achieve.
• Keep in mind the importance of your surroundings. Make sure the scene is set that makes her the most comfortable. Be sure all her senses are engaged and promoting relaxation and you will be well on your way.

 

• Look for areas of tension in her body. They will be in the form of knots or her muscles will be swollen. Use massage techniques to work them out. She will love it.
• Keep your hands on her body at all times. You want to give her the sensation of your hands touching her all over.
• Massage her body in strokes that point toward the heart. This will help promote blood flow and allow her muscles to relax easier.
• Keep the massage basic. Don’t get fancy (not just yet anyway). You don’t want to try any complicated moves that could hinder her relaxation and concentration.
• Try to make your massage cohesive like every move and every stroke is deliberate. You want her massage to feel constant so there is no break in the process.
• Keep the pace of the massage slow and steady. Increasing stimulation too fast could reverse any relaxation she may be feeling.
• Keep her focused on her breathing. If you keep her breathing slow and steady then she will be most likely to receive the therapeutic properties of the massage. Just making her aware of her breathing goes a long way toward helping her relax. Keep her breathing in through her nose and out through her mouth.

Types of Massages:

1) Friction:

This is the type of massage that is going to take away her knots or swelling. When you locate the knot; place your fingers on it and start moving them around in a circular motion. Keep these motions going directly over the knot and you should be able to work out the tension.

2) Gliding:

Gliding refers to pushing your fingers together and running your hands down her body or specific body part you are massaging. The intensity of this massage depends on how much pressure you apply. Watch her reactions close to this massage so you will know how much pressure is appropriate to make her feel the deepest relaxation.

3) Kneading:

This is one of the most familiar types of massages. Think of it like kneading biscuit dough. The way you work out the chunks in the dough is the way you are going to work out your lover’s stress. A firm pressure is usually applied in specific areas of tension.

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