Giving Her An Orgasm - Chapter 5: Level 1 – Attraction
Turning Sexual Attraction into Sex
The attraction has already begun. You have made eye contact and she is responding. You can feel the attraction beginning to turn sexual. Now what do you do?
We are going to go over some things that you can do to continue the sexual arousal and carry it over into the bedroom. A woman’s body and her sexual arousal will react differently when in a bedroom setting. You have to be conscious of that and make the proper changes to facilitate an increased level of sexual attraction.
The advantage you will have in the bedroom is that it promotes relaxation. It is an environment that puts her more at ease and makes her relaxed and comfortable. We have already learned how important relaxation is in the female arousal process. If you don’t keep her relaxed; you are going to have a much harder time giving her an orgasm.
The techniques we are going to go over are best used before actual sexual intercourse occurs. This is leading up to it and building anticipation. The more anticipation you build in your partner; the stronger her climax will be.
Sexual Attraction: Preparing Your Space
When you are setting a scene to promote sexual attraction; you want to envelop her senses with the promise of desire. We are going to concentrate on her sense of smell, hearing and sight.
1) Smells –
The sense of smell can be a powerful tool of sexual attraction. Smells actually contribute to sexual attraction starting at the beginning stages.
When you combine a pleasant smell with the other things you will use to soothe her senses; you can put her in a sexual mood and the rise in her arousal scale will flow much smoother.
Once you find the perfect smells that put her at ease; she will start to associate that smell with sexual desire. After she has had multiple orgasms with these smells in the room; they will be an automatic trigger every time whether conscious or subconscious. This will make it much easier to raise her arousal scale the next time you have sex. The smell will hopefully start triggering a sexual response and turn her on before you have even begun foreplay.
Note: Once you have found a smell that is successful; make sure it is a smell that she only smells in the bedroom. If she has access to this smell at other times, it will begin to take away its power to trigger a sexual response.
Here are a few things that you can try out to see which one will relax her the most.
- Scented Candles
- Air Freshener (preferably natural scents)
- Incense Sticks or Cones
- Oils (either burning or in a jar)
When choosing a scent; the first thing you want to do is rule out any smells that she might find unpleasant. If you start burning incense that irritates her when she is breathing it in; you will have the opposite of the desired effect.
Experiment with a few different scents and learn to recognize the smells that she responds to the most. Don’t go too strong with the scents; at least at first. Start with light scents. As long as she doesn’t respond negatively to it; you’re on the right track.
These are some types of scents you could start off with that are popular among many women.
- Lavender
- Sandalwood
- Citrus
- Fruit or Flowers
- Coconut
- Vanilla
2) Sounds –
The right music can make a huge difference in the bedroom. You don’t want to be cliché and put on some cheesy saxophone music, but you don’t want to freak her out with something like heavy metal (unless, of course, that’s what turns her on). The right music can give you both sexual energy and put you in the right mood for sexual
desire.
I have noticed that soothing sounds of nature sometimes works just as well as music. It really depends on the individual. Get a feel for her sensibilities and try out different types of music. Start out with some soothing music you can meditate to and see whether she responds to it or it puts her to sleep. She might just enjoy the
relaxing sounds of ocean waves or a breeze blowing through a forest. You can really play around here and get creative.
3) Visuals –
It might go without saying that you don’t want the room too bright. You do want to be able to see your lover and look in her eyes, but you don’t want any harsh or bright lights. Make the lights dim. If you don’t have a dimmer; make sure the light source is far enough away from the bed or could even be light from another room.
Some people like to use candles for lighting as well as smells. This is a good strategy, but I would rather have a light source that you don’t have to maintain. I don’t want to have to worry about a candle burning out or getting too hot and leaking everywhere. A small lamp would probably suffice. I have also used a black light or even various novelty lamps to get the right look. This depends on your space and personal preferences. All three of the stages of preparing your space can be quite fun and shows your lover that you are making an effort to prepare the ideal setting for sexual gratification.
One Last Thing about Sexual Attraction
When you make her feel a sexual attraction toward you and that attraction leads to an orgasm; it won’t be easy for her to forget you. The pleasure you give her will stick out in her mind and she will want it from you again. It’s not just her mind that remembers you. Her body remembers and will be drawn to you.
The opposite effect could happen if your sexual encounter does not end in orgasm or is otherwise unsatisfactory. This will affect her desire to have sex with you and you will need to work harder to turn her on. Sexual attraction should not be a chore. If you familiarize yourself with ways to promote sexual attraction in your partner; it will get easier and easier to keep her coming back.
This is why the orgasm process doesn’t end with an orgasm. It’s the follow-up that keeps the cycle of attraction going. Make her reflect on the pleasure you gave her and let her know that the pleasure is only going to increase each time.