Giving Her An Orgasm - Chapter 3: Female Sex Organs and How to Stimulate Them
The Urethral Sponge –
The urethral sponge is a lot like the G-spot. Some think it’s the same thing. It’s not the same thing, but you can give a woman intense pleasures by stimulating it just like the G-spot.
It is located in the urethral canal. It is the soft tissue that lines the inside. Much like the clitoris, it has a high concentration of nerve endings. The tissue is called the skenes glands and they are what cause a woman to ejaculate. This is where the clear fluid comes from that the woman releases when she has an orgasm.
The A-spot –
The A-spot is found deep inside the vagina. The “A” stands for the Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone. It is the term used to describe the tissue between the cervix and bladder.
It is a sensitive erogenous zone like the G-spot. The difference is that the G-spot is found just inside the vaginal opening while the A-spot is found deep inside.
To stimulate the A-spot; insert your middle finger. Work it around until you get as deep as you can inside the vagina. When you get close to it; you feel that the vaginal walls start to close in around your finger. The texture is not going to be rough like the G-spot. It is actually going to be very smooth.
Use the same fingering method as you do with the G-spot to stimulate this area. Going in from behind or lifting her legs up over her head will help you get in there deep enough to stimulate it if you can’t get that deep initially.
Start Communicating
Communication is very important during every step of the process leading to female orgasm. She might not be comfortable right away with talking about what gives her pleasure. You have to make her comfortable and put her at ease with her own sexuality. Give her encouragement and let her know that you will do whatever brings her the most pleasure.
You should also communicate with her about how these new techniques will feel. When you give a woman an orgasm by stimulating her G-spot; it is different and much more intense. She needs to be prepared for this so she’s not alarmed during intercourse. It might make her feel like she has to urinate. If you prepare her for this; she will be much more relaxed and comfortable. The more relaxed and comfortable she is; the more likely it will be that she will relax and let it happen.
It’s a good idea to ask her to urinate just before intercourse. That way she knows that the sensation she is feeling is not to urinate.
If she urinates before intercourse; her mind will be at ease and she won’t worry about it as much in the moment. If she is anxious that she is about to urinate; it will take her mind right out of the pleasure she is feeling. The more distracted she is, the harder it will be to give her an orgasm.
Urinating prior to sex will help, but she may still feel like she has to urinate during intercourse. This is why you need to inform her and let her know that this is a normal part of the sensation. You can also let her know that it is physically impossible for her urinate when she is in a heightened state of arousal. Let her know that, when she feels the urge to urinate, don’t attempt to hold it. Tell her to roll with that feeling and let it overcome her. Reassure her that she will not wet the bed and let her know that this feeling will be followed by an amazing orgasm. Then she will be able to enjoy the rush of pleasure that will consume her entire body.
Other Sources of Female Arousal
There may be thousands of nerve endings in and around a woman’s vagina that will give her pleasure, but she still has so much more. There are many erogenous zones on a woman that can be stimulated to promote sexual arousal. Playing around in these areas can contribute a lot to the teasing factor and bring her closer to orgasm faster.
Buttocks –
We have already covered the advantages of stimulating the anus, but I am referring to her butt cheeks. The skin on her buttocks is sensitive and can easily arouse her. You can spank it, caress it or kiss it gently. Some women even like a little bite to get them going.
Mouth –
Kissing isn’t just for foreplay. Sometimes kissing during teasing or even intercourse will raise her level of arousal. Kiss her deeply and keep your lips pressed against hers as you stimulate her closer to orgasm. Her lips are sensitive as well and passionate kissing will drive her wild.
Breasts –
A woman’s breasts are one of the most obvious erogenous zones. The flesh on her boobs, especially her nipples, is very sensitive. Fondling her boobs and brushing your lips up against her nipples can cause a big rise in her arousal. Reaching up and stimulating the nipples while you are giving her oral sex can go a long way toward peaking her arousal as well.
Neck –
Many women will melt in your arms if you caress and kiss their neck. The flesh is sensitive in this area as well. Don’t just dive in though. You don’t want to tickle her. Soft kisses or a light neck massage will send some women into the next level of arousal.
Scalp –
The scalp is another place that is very sensitive on a woman. Running your fingers through her hair or kissing her head sometimes sends a charge through her that really turns her on.
Ears –
The ears are another part of a woman that contain a high concentration of nerve endings. Stimulating these nerves with kissing or whispering in her ear will drive her level of arousal up pretty quickly.
Others – Shoulders, Stomach, Feet, Back, Knees