Giving Her An Orgasm - Chapter 2: Six Steps to Female Orgasm
There is one major thing that separates this guide from all other books of its kind. The information and tips that I provide for you will show you much more than just a part of what sexual intercourse is all about. I will show you how to enjoy better sex as a whole.
Here are the two main things that we are going to focus on in this guide.
KNOWLEDGE: The information needed to understand female orgasms.
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TECHNIQUE: The tools needed to put the information to work for you.
Each of these two things must be addressed or neither of them will do you any good. You cannot properly assimilate the techniques I show you into your sex life without learning what the female orgasm is all about first.
The knowledge I provide for you is basically the steps you need to take to master the techniques. It is possible for the techniques to be useful without the knowledge, but the results won’t be nearly as good without the knowledge that is needed to perfect the techniques.
This means that; if you want to master the techniques; you must first pay close attention to the knowledge behind them.
Step 1 – Get Your Mind Straight
In order to get the optimal results from sexual intercourse; you must first get your mind straight. Your frame of mind, as well as hers, can greatly affect your success in giving her an orgasm.
The Incorrect Way of Thinking
What is on your mind when you are about to have sex?
It is likely that you are thinking about giving her an orgasm.
This may seem like a good way to approach sex, but it comes with many drawbacks. You are constantly chasing that ultimate orgasm. That orgasm can’t be achieved by randomly trying different things hoping one of them will work. You go in blind or you start trying out every technique you ever heard of not sure which one will work.
If you want to give a woman an orgasm; you must do more than just WANT to give her an orgasm.
Of course you have to want to give her an orgasm, but simply wanting to achieve it without the knowledge or techniques to do it will put unnecessary pressure on both of you. The need to give an orgasm and the pressure that comes with it brings stress into the bedroom. Sex is supposed to be fun. It’s not meant to be a source of anxiety.
The more stress you bring into the bedroom; the more difficult it will be for her to achieve orgasm.
The same thing applies to an actor in a movie.
If an actor gives in to the pressure of needing to give a good performance; his attention is actually taken away from the performance. The concentration he needed to play a good role is taken up by the stress that he feels and the need to do well.
An actor who approaches his role this way will almost surely give a lackluster performance. If you stress about whether or not you can give her an orgasm; the stress will rub off on her. This will result in a lackluster performance from both of you.
If you are both distracted, you will not satisfy her. You have set a goal for yourself that you do not know how to achieve. When you don’t achieve that goal; you are both left feeling unsatisfied.
If you continue to approach sex this way and don’t learn the proper techniques to give her an orgasm; you will eventually attribute sex to that feeling of disappointment and disillusionment. Your stress will build each time until you stop trying or no longer care.
The Correct Way of Thinking
This may seem like a contradictory statement, but here it is.
In order to give a woman an orgasm; you must not concentrate on the orgasm itself.
Don’t concentrate on giving her an orgasm. Concentrate on giving her pleasure in general. The orgasm is achieved from her feeling pleasure.
If you concentrate solely on her pleasure without the pressure of an orgasm; the orgasm will actually come with less effort.